So, you say you want change…Do you really? What can you do to change? How can you change to make change? What should you do to inaugurate change? What do you want to change? Do you want to change yourself or change someone or something around you? If you want to change others, prioritize self examination! Where do you want to place your influence to make change? Think it over. What is it about yourself that you want changed? Do you want to change how you respond to circumstances? How do you respond personally to yourself and others? Change starts from within…our own thoughts first and then our actions. What have you thought about that you want to change? Do you want to develop patience? Do you want to be contemplative? Do you want to stop impulsivity, jumping to conclusions before introspection? Examine the parameters and consequences of your thoughts and actions? How have you participated in what has happened? Have you examined the possible consequences of your actions before making decisions. What may the outcome be? These questions are so very important. This is “life.”
Be motivated to make inner positive change from Inside to Outside!
1. Be accountable for your own actions. This is a “biggy.” We see people who want to play the “blame game,” make everybody else responsible for their life circumstance. Remember!
2. “YOU ARE CHANGE!”
3. Monitor yourself. Yes, “I AM CHANGE!”
4. Don’t wear yourself out. Don’t beat up on yourself! Do your best.
5. You are a readily available positive instrument for change. Life brings the necessity for change. Change yourself, some others will change too. Pray. Respond as much as possible in love. Don’t forget to forgive. Let peace rule and be a part of your everyday existence. Refuse to be aggravated and frustrated by others actions. That’s right. He/she made me do it, because he/she did this, that or the other. “YOU ARE CHANGE!’ “You can control your behavior! YOU HAVE THE POWER! Be your own best friend!
6. Body language plays a part too: facial expressions, spoken words and how words are spoken make a difference. A soft word turns away wrath. It gives inner peace.
7. Don’t forget, you are not perfect and whatever change you want to make might not be made overnight or maybe even in a few weeks. You may not even realize you have made a dent in the change you are seeking. Others may notice and others may care enough about you to see the change and mention it.
8. When others criticize you negatively (not constructively) be considerate of the source and maintain quietness within. Refuse to react impulsively and emotionally.
Teach your children at home. Jeanette Grattan Parker, Ph.D. Superintendent/Founder-Today’s Fresh Start Charter School, 4514 Crenshaw BL., LA 90043 323-293-9826 [writer, artist, educator, speaker, marriage expert (50+) Writings are copyright: “Will You Marry Me” and “Inquiring Minds Want To Know.”] [email protected].
