This past weekend, I had the opportunity to spend quality time with my eldest grandson. He is currently taking jiu-jitsu, and I watched him methodically demonstrate his skills, concentration, and formation. What I found interesting was the name of the place where he takes his lessons—Evolve.
When I thought about what it means to evolve, I realized it reflects how we gradually develop to become our best selves over time. We experience change and transformation if we stay the course, remain focused, and practice what we are taught.
When I looked up the definition of “evolve,” I found that it also encompasses our ideas, behaviors, relationships, and personal development. In essence, we should all strive to be in a state of evolving.
March is the month we welcome springtime as well as daylight saving time. This season represents a time of growth and blossoming. As I considered how quickly time is moving and all that we have experienced since the new year, I felt a bit stagnant. But then I realized we do not always have to be blooming to be growing. Sometimes, growth and advancement happen internally without visible signs.
We must understand that evolution takes time, and external changes may not always be immediately apparent. That does not mean we are not growing. Growth can be quiet, and that is okay. Sometimes, periods of stillness allow for healing. Just like plants, we may be growing beneath the surface before eventually blossoming.
The evolution of leadership at the federal level has left many feeling lost, confused, and perhaps stagnant in their own growth. However, just because we feel blocked does not mean we are not progressing. At times, we must pivot and discover new ways to use our gifts and skills—ways that may stretch us beyond our deepest expectations.
I once heard someone say, “If we are not growing, we are dying.” To some extent, this is true. If we do not strive to better ourselves, we shortchange what God has planned for us and miss the opportunity to live our best lives. We cannot allow anyone or anything to hinder our growth.
If you feel stuck and unsure of how to move forward, start with your mindset. Decide to take one small step today that will help you grow, stretch, and bloom. Simple actions—such as visiting the library, reading about a new topic, or taking an online class—can spark growth.
You can also engage in physical activity, like exercising or going for a walk, to boost your energy and motivation. Ask yourself why you feel stuck and how you got there. Often, when we pause, reflect, and pray, the answers come.
Whenever I feel stagnant, I turn to my “kitchen cabinet”—a trusted group of people who will be honest with me. If you have a similar support system, lean on them for guidance. And for those of us who are fortunate to live in places like California, where the weather is often beautiful, simply stepping outside and soaking up the sunshine can go a long way in helping us blossom and grow.
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