Most of us have heard the phrase, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. But have you ever read the works of “Theocritus”? He wrote the following, “For in the eyes of Love that which is not beautiful often seems beautiful”. Those are the most powerful words I have read in such a long time.
Hello world, I know that my subjective personality will overtake this article, yet I truly believe these words will help those of you who are in debate about a spouse or the decision to accept a new lover. I feel blessed to be able to write to you all today because I have been witness to the disappointments of life and how ill decisions cause relationships to fail. Give me a moment of your time, sit back, read these words and afterwards formulate your own opinions.
Last weekend I went home for the first time in months. My objective was to visit a woman who has been a mother to me for many years. I am fortunate to have three women who share a motherly bond with me. One of which has recently suffered from physical illness. When I arrived in town my anxiety seemed to fade. I was secure in the notion that I would be able to share a few hugs and kisses with a lady I’ve placed upon a pedestal since I was thirteen. Soon as saw her, I realized that my life path was altered in a positive way because she shares her love with me. I admire her husband who has always supported her surrogate gift to me, while I hugged his wife; he became a role model, instantly. Neither one of them is in the prime of their life, yet both of them share the beauty of fidelity, in spite of issues that have occurred.
While I was home I also shared a moment with the first positive Black woman in my life. She took care of me during my first foster care placement. She taught me diction and table etiquette. The hugs and kisses I share with her offer me a sense of heritage that is overwhelming at times. I honor her for several reasons, often her advice and business practices are shrewd, yet she has prospered and helped others for many years, which is truly beautiful.
Later that night, I watched my father (or Coach as I often refer to him as) fix dinner. I witnessed him ask his wife for a kiss as she was busy preparing the salad and urged him to take the chicken off the grill before it over cooked. Jokingly, Coach stated that he ca nnot function with out affection. He stood in place for a moment and when she kissed him he earnestly hurried to the grill. His behavior drew laughter and I recognized the beauty in their relationship.
What I am attempting to convey with these words is to appreciate the beauty around you, even if you do not totally agree with the behaviors and opinions of the people within your life. In my opinion, “beauty is interpreted by thought which can be negatively influenced by media and persons with great charismatic power”. However, metaphorically, she does not have to share the likeness of Venus to be beautiful, nor the intelligence of Sojourner Truth. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I just hope you as the beholder views beauty with your heart, yet understand what has the potential to be beautiful for life through positive deductive reasoning.
To the woman who is recently detached from what you thought was a secure version of love, do not worry, you are and will remain a true beauty. To the man who forsakes all others and holds true to the vow of commitment, remain grounded as your beauty out shines those with a negative pretentious glow. To the youthful lady who has not yet been tainted by life, hold on to your gifts and only present them when you have no personal regrets. And finally to the young gentleman, understand that your beauty follows that path of prosperity, yet only if you allow yourself to develop in a positive fashion. Thank you for reading and thank you more if you actually formulate your own opinions of who is beautiful in your life!