Thursday, December 9, 2021
“When Love Comes Knocking at Your Door”
By Wendy Gladney Dean
Published February 11, 2016


When you think of Valentine’s Day what comes to your mind? Of course many of us think of cards, love, chocolates and flowers, but did you know the celebration we associate with romanticism also is tied to Christianity and persecution? Legend has it that the tradition of Valentine’s Day was birthed out of an account of Saint Valentine from Rome who was sent to prison for performing weddings to soldiers who were forbidden to marry. Saint Valentine also ministered to Christians and therefore was sent away to prison. While Saint Valentine was in jail before he was executed he signed a letter as “Your Valentine,” this sparked the dawning of what we know today as Valentine’s Day.



Although this celebration is clouded by legend and mystery one thing is for sure Valentine’s Day is associated with love. Love is at the core of what we all need and desire. The bible shares in first Corinthians the thirteenth chapter the importance of faith, hope, and love, but the greatest of these is love. It also tells us that love never fails. We all need to hold onto the hope that can only come from true love. Life has enough troubles of its own that we have no control of so when we have the opportunity to spread goodness and love to others we need to do so. This can be done effortlessly by just being kind, sharing a smile or telling someone you forgive them for a past hurt, but candy can also be sweet.


Valentine’s Day tends to belong to lovers, but love has no boundaries or walls so it is also a good time to show and share love with anyone and everyone in our lives. There are a lot of hurting people that would welcome and possibly even be healed if a little kindness and love was extended to them. Love should not be based on or have its foundation centered on just emotions. The dictionary describes love as an intense feeling of deep affection or a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone, but true love goes deeper. When we really love someone even if we become disappointed it will run deep as the ocean.


There are several different types of love philo, eros and agape. Philo is associated with friendship. We think of it as the type of love we extend to our friends and family. An example would be when kids celebrate Valentine’s Day at school they take little cards and candy hearts for their friends. It is also where the city of Philadelphia got its slogan as the city of brotherly love. Eros is the one we think of when it comes to romantic relationships and agape is an unconditional love extended to all mankind. At various times in our lives we all experience one or more of these types of love.



Throughout our lifetime we all search and chase being loved. We do things to attract attention, but when we don’t get what we think we want in return we tend to feel down, loveless and possibly even depressed. These emotions are real, but we have to fight against them and choose mind over matter. We have to first love and like ourselves before we can truly love others or expect others to love us. I’m not referring to the kind we associate with selfies and conceit, but rather understanding that no matter what we look like, what we do for a living, where we live, how much money we have or whatever society says we have to know we are worthy and have purpose. When love comes knocking at our door it may not look like we thought it was going to look. One of the things life has taught me is that before we are really ready to embrace and receive certain types of love we have to love ourselves and learn to love others. Then when it does knock at your door you will be open to receive it.


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Visit and Wendy is a coach, consultant and speaker. You may email her at [email protected]. Wendy is featured on Radio Free 102.3 KJLH on Front Page with Dominique DiPrima Thursday Mornings @ 4:30am.

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