Hello world, I have a question for you all this week. I do not find my question to be complex, just difficult for me to answer. “When does a person stop maturing”? I am speaking from the mental perspective as it pertains to one’s level of understanding and self concept. I am really perplexed by this question for many different reasons. For example, I would like to think of myself as an understanding individual who appreciates the opinions of others and enjoys thought provoking conversation, but I know it does not require profound intellect for a person to be mature. In fact I know persons with doctorial degrees who mismanage there lives in the sense of negative behaviors. I want to know if it is a conscious decision to halt ones own level of maturity.
Now, I am not talking about common or everyday mistakes that a person has to cope with. As human beings we will need to deal with certain faults throughout life. Why do people manipulate and mislead one another when the profit from such actions causes distress and heartache? I know men who have multiple children and purchase superficial goods while their children suffer. I know women who deny a positive constructive relationship with their own child because having a baby has ended their pursuit of what once was considered fun. When does a person recognize the errors in their behaviors? When does a person come to the realization that optimistic effort breads positive results?
Why are certain people willing to lie, cheat and steal to progress in life when others will work until physical and psychological exhaustion take over, in order to provide for their family, themselves and others? Where does one find it within them to conduct themselves in a fashion where maturity does not exist? I refuse to think of it as a nature versus nurture concept, because I believe the nature of man is good and everyone has the mental ability to accept or deny the tutelage of their parents and peers.
So, enough of the tough thought! I know this world is full of negativity and to think that man will coexist in a euphoric and positive fashion is foolish. However, if we individually stop maturing, we offer no hope for ourselves tomorrow or the next generation after that. I propose we learn form our everyday mistakes and attempt to live a more positive life. Then when we think of yesterday, we all notice signs of maturity. I heard an elder say this once, “If we lose (our) love and self respect and respect of each other, this is how we will finally die, (Maya Angelou)”.