Wednesday, October 18, 2017
By Alfonzo Tucker (Columnist)
Published March 12, 2009

Hello world, I have a bold and interesting question to ask. What does it mean to Love? What does it mean to be in Love? What does it mean to give Love? This question stands in relation to ones feelings for a person they desire to share their lives with: a partner. The bold portion of this question relates to Merriam-Webster's definition of love, "a deep feeling of sexual desire and attraction, any object of warm affection or devotion, a strong positive emotion of regard and affection".

From a bold perspective, I understand that love has a different meaning amongst all people, yet powerful enough to be included as an alternative meaning within any dictionary. From an interesting stand point those different meanings could cause issues between couples who love one another yet their personal perspective could contradict their partners.

For example, I once thought I loved a woman who told me; all she needed to love me was for me to be there for her. I failed, thus I lost her love. Oddly enough, I discovered love for her years later after understanding my wants and needs. Yet, maturity brought the realization that I could not understand during my time with her. So even though I thought I was in love, my personal definition challenged my emotional perception of love. Meaning, I was lustful for her, I had an affinity for her, yet I had no respect for myself thus I truly could not love her within my own definition.

So, is Love so rare that it only exists within a small percentage of the human population? Or is love an evolutionary process that mutates and modifies itself to suit your personal wants and needs for a time period? I believe in my definition of love, which is; "the ultimate giving of ones self in an altruistic fashion that dwells within respect and honor for yourself and your other, only to be reciprocated amongst both involved parties simultaneously, thus creating euphoria that is so mentally and physically powerful, to withdraw from it requires a treatment program". Therefore Love may only exist in poetic chorus as a positive and a negative.

Not all of you will agree with me, which is the beauty of having an opinion. And many of you may dwell within a personal view of love that is either more or less complicated. Hey, whatever works for you do it! I learned long ago giving to your lover what they ask of you, makes for an amorous relationship with potential for growth as opposed to memories of what could have been.

If you are blessed to have your definition of love with someone, continue to cultivate that light; so if it ever dims your pursuit of its' clarity simulates the pulse that generates your consciousness. And for those of you, who are looking for love, try developing a personal definition for it. So even if it changes you'll have some idea of what your future holds.


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