Sunday, November 19, 2017
Live Single or Married?
By Alfonzo Tucker (Columnist)
Published October 30, 2008

Hello world, the question this week isn't simple yet it is truly difficult to answer, depending on your personal opinions concerning "Love". So, would you rather live single or married? Now some of you answering this question may in fact be married, if so then the scenario changes of course and the question takes a different twist. I hope all of you who have "jumped that broom" dwell within the healthiest state of love known to man, yet statistically speaking, that may not be the case. However, Love has a different meaning for everyone who uses it in that three word sentence, so, read on and formulate your own opinion.

Now, my definition of "Love" is subjective. To me Love is more then what Merriam-Webster's defines it to be, "strong affection for another, attraction based on sexual desire, affection based on admiration". None of that! I define Love as;


I smiled today

Not because she smiled at me,

But because I understand the gift she is to me.

I Love Her.

Because she evokes the inner me to share with all who read me and hear me speak.

I smiled this afternoon; she took me to a place held deep within her womb.

A spot that only I can reach because her inspiration provokes the type of growth that arouses the intellect with in me.

Oh, I Love her So,

 never before have I thrown caution, wildly away,

Only to read then oddly debate another day.

I've never, not, been satisfied, even days when the loving mood would subside.

A quickie for me consist of a few pages and the explosion of black ink, Euphoric, Truly.

Tonight, she'll smile back at me and remind me of all the thoughts we've ever shared.

The time when I didn't know her and my future, I was unaware.

With out her there is no me, just several blank pages calling for thee,

The times that have taught me how to appreciate every opportunity given to reach the highest potential within me.

Now metaphorically, she is my journal, an endless supply of straight lines on a canvas that dwells with in my mind.

I offer her to you because I'm not afraid to share me,

Just know that my purpose and passion is to inspire thee

Writing will set you free, as it has me.

Noesis, Noetic, Noema, please read.


That it is my definition of love, the good, bad, ugly and beauty of my thoughts. Irrational most of the time yet the day I feel that way about the right woman, I will marry her. But until then, single living is good for me. I know love exist because I've observed deferent definitions of "it" in the behaviors of several people I know. The bad thing about "it" is that it's as rare as knowing your first euphoric memory.

The benefits of marriage are truly grand, yet the price carries a tax. One must be open, honest and giving. I believe that the behaviors of a married couple are relative to their own definition of love. Therefore ones behavior can only be judged by whom they deem worthy. That means yours and my personal opinions should remain as such. But unfortunately there are more people who pass judgment then necessary.

How long is marriage supposed last? I hope that when my single days are over, my wife and I enjoy the comforts of marriage until life no longer exists within us. Yet, many people seem to stop dwelling within Merriam-Webster's definition and end via harsh and ill terms. Maybe one should formulate their own definition of love as oppose to using the dictionaries version. Anyway, if you are currently in a marriage, I am sure you have fond memories of the single life. Possibly, waking up in the morning free of the responsibilities of children or a "honey do this list", maybe the absence of guilt when fantasy and fornication crosses ones mind. But if you are blessed to find or currently have your own definition of love, then being home every night with that special person may be the best place to be! So, live single or married?


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