Monday, October 16, 2017
Jus Ax Fred
By Fred Hawthorne
Published July 10, 2013

Greetings Sentinel Family,

My name is Frederick Hawthorne (author of “Why Did I Sleep with Him”) and I will be bringing our community a weekly relationship column that will give helpful tips and great insight as to the functions of a relationship from an alpha male, testosterone driven perspective (Think “Dear Abby” on steroids). 

I’m sure you are wondering what gives me the right to crown myself all knowing as it relates to relationships.  Well it’s quite simple.  I don’t.  Simply put, I was a man that had the misfortune of dating countless women in my single days.  I was a man that had the keen ability to become introspective with every encounter I had with women.   I learned very early in dating hat women are enamored with the “Idea of a man” as opposed to the reality that men are born with a tool kit that allows them to pick a woman’s lock and open up every door of her existence.

Women from an early age learn in order to date a man they must first imagine him, then his characteristics, and finally what he can do for her.   These imaginative devices are then combined with her grandmother and divorced aunts reiterating, “There are so few good men in the world.” Then when she finds that one they all say, “You hold on to him as tight as possible, never letting go until death do you both part.” 

However, where women go wrong is allowing their idea of a man to override the realities of a real man.   This is where I learned very early as a man if you can tantalize her imagination, she would instinctively lean on her imaginative characteristics, thrusting her into “I gotta keep this man mode.”  And this is where us as men gain the upper hand in our relations with women. 

While writing my book I interviewed hundreds of women and what I learned is most, if not all, women’s first crush on a man was some fictional character they saw on TV, furthering the notion women fall in love with the idea of a man before they fall in love with a real man.  Until women fully understand their idea of a man is not the typical mainstream man, men will continue to use their ability to lie their way into the bedroom and then throw her into the dumpster when someone younger and more beautiful comes along willing to fall for the same lies he used on you. 

And this is where I come in; to offer my expertise and edify your potential or current relationships. From first dates to wedding bells to divorce parties this column will be devoted to offering advice to help you and other readers get through their perspective obstacles.

Sentinel Family, I am looking forward to answering many of your questions because at the end of the day there is no road on earth that has never been traveled, and knowing that someone has overcome our current challenges gives us hope and courage that we too can overcome our challenges as well. 

 Send your questions into

Thanking you all in advance,

Frederick Hawthorne



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