Part of our Soul as a people can be found in what we can create when we come together. But with marriage on the decline and the genders nearly at war with public propaganda, our proverbial Soul is now divided.
For example, men once lead the Black community. Now, women have ostensibly displaced them, but not really.
And there is no way for anyone to lead when all bets are off and many paradigms have been turned on their heads.
For the first time in our history, more Black men are claiming that there is no racism and therefore, no need to deal with the problem of race or racial issues. To them, anyone who cannot get ahead is “choosing” to be left behind.
For the first time in our history, more Black women are now asserting their status as women above their status as Black people as though that will get them above racism, when really, it just leaves fewer of us focused on Black issues.
And it leaves more of us divided.
You can say anything negative about Black men and many people will readily agree. Even if it is false.
We are blamed for interracial marriage (even amongst Black women), the infection of Black women with everything, anti-intellectualism, the decreasing marriage rate of Black women, poverty, wild children on the street and global warming.
People claim that there are more of us in prison than college and that most of us are deadbeat dads.
But say anything about Black women and dead-brained assholes will come out of the woodwork to claim that you hate all women. Even if what you say is true.
With no accountability, we’ve seen many Black women become over-sexualized yet undereducated about sex. We’ve seen more of them prepared for life alone and fewer prepared for marriage, while many of them think that being single mothers automatically makes them Strong Black Women. We’ve seen many of those single mothers prepare their daughters to work hard and live independently, while preparing their sons for nothing.
And in the midst of fewer marriages, many Black mothers and fathers have either adopted a false permissive parenting style or no parenting style at all while selfishly pursuing a hedonistic lifestyle foisted above the children they made because they thought parenting would make them look good, not because they really wanted to be parents.
We’ve seen such soulless parents produce a generation of Soul dead children who are now adults with no idea what is good and so pursue nothing and get awarded anyway.
Those soulless parents have produced a generation of children who think that two dead rap stars are heroes, who think that sex is free and hard work is for suckers and who think that drug dealing and violence are the natural pursuits of Black men and that sexual objectification and avarice are the natural pursuits of Black women.
Where we previously would have had an ability to police our own and so make necessary community corrections, too many of us have adopted the majority’s standards and now rely on people outside of our community for ways and means to move our community. As though they really care.
That’s why many Black women supported Hilary Clinton because she is a woman, and many Black men supported her because her husband is a “friend” of Black people. Her husband, Bill Clinton, who presided during a time when Black college enrollment decreased while Black prison enrollment increased.
A president who joined his wife in making nearly slanderous racial remarks and making certain that the presidential campaign was focused on race.
And still we celebrate the denigration of our Soul by anyone who dares to do so, including ourselves.
This is why we can watch America’s new favorite Coon, Flavor Flav, clown, buckdance and embarrass the race in bright colors and then tune in to BET (The Bulls-t Egregiously damaging Television network) and watch such Soul killing shows as Hot Ghetto Mess (now called “We Can Do Better,” a clip show similar to Americas Home Videos, but with Buffoon behavior), Hell Date (with Negroes acting ignorant on fake dates, instead of dealing with the fact that fewer of us are actually dating) and College Hill (where young, ignorant Negroes are paraded on the world stage as violent and oversexual, instead of bright and gifted as the show promised initially).
We perform and then watch these things on television because, as many dead Soul Negroes claim, “We have the right to do so.”
We have the right, but it’s still wrong. And it is killing our Soul, even as the nation loses its own.
Yes, America is losing its own Soul, but African descendants in this land aren’t built for the selling of their Soul, because without our Soul, we are nothing. We will not become white with privilege and we will no longer be what we once strove to be-self-determining and self-sufficient proud Black people.
We will just be Souled out.
Darryl James is an award-winning author of the forthcoming powerful anthology “Notes From The Edge.” Discounted Autographed and Numbered Advance copies can be ordered at www.DarrylJames.com. View previous installments of this column at www.bridgecolumn.proboards36.com. Reach James at djames@theBlackgendergap.com.