Wednesday, September 20, 2017
An Unmarried Woman
By Alfonzo Tucker (Columnist)
Published March 26, 2009

Hello world, another week has passed and again I have the pleasure to be seated in my favorite leopard upholstered chair writing to all of you. Thank you for giving yourself a moment to share my thoughts with you. I was inspired to write this article after a film I viewed alone the other day. Not the typical film I would normally give my time to yet the title intrigued me. The name of the film is “An Unmarried Woman”, staring Jill Clayburgh (1978). I think every woman should watch this film as many of you can become inspired by the content. Truthfully, I was intimidated by the story line. Allow me to explain.

In my life I hope to share what my opinion of love is with a woman. Some of you who read my articles regularly may recall my definition from a past article titled “Love”. I believe it to be, “the ultimate giving of ones self in an altruistic fashion that dwells within respect and honor for yourself and your other, only to be reciprocated amongst both involved parties simultaneously, thus creating euphoria that is so mentally and physically powerful, to withdraw from it requires a treatment program”. Therefore Love may only exist in poetic chorus as a positive and a negative. 

Well, as much as I am attracted to an independent woman, I know that my ego would feed off her desire to need me and only me, from a relationship perspective of course. Yet, the contradiction is my attraction for a woman who evokes strength and vigor. I know it sounds odd yet today’s woman in comparison to the era of the eighth century has options that promote independence, which I am an advocate for. However, the role of women has changed. Jill Clayburgh’s character undergoes a development that is truly incredible. One day she is a housewife and the next she if dealt with what over fifty percent of married couples experience, divorce. Her desire to become autonomous frees her from grief and leads her to peace. I am a true supporter of marriage yet understand that people are living differently in this twenty-first century.

So the moral of the article is this, create within yourself the truest and most secure understanding of yourself so that you may share yourself with your companion, free from distrust and dishonesty. That way, the beauty of cultivation within your relationship breeds the type of growth that is shared. Thus a greater chance of sharing life together becomes evident. In my opinion it is never too late to start, if you are single or in a committed relationship, it is your responsibility to take these steps together.

I leave you all with a quote from a woman I have a great deal of admiration for. Not solely because of her advance thoughts, but because of the time, the era, in which she voiced her opinions. “Marriage, to women as to men, must be a luxury, not a necessity; an incident of life, not all of it. And the only possible way to accomplish this great change is to accord to women equal power in the making, shaping and controlling of the circumstances of life, (Susan B. Anthony)”.

Categories: Opinion

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