Pastor T. Marvene Wright
Scripture: Behold, children are a gift of the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a reward. Psalms 127:3
By Pastor T. Marvene Wright
The Word Center Church of Los Angeles
Growing up as a little girl, one of the highlights of my day was waking up early in the morning when I would hear my father leaving the house before dawn to arrive at his job for 4 a.m.
I grew up in Florida, at a time when the city was very racially divided. My father worked at a bakery in the “white” part of town and several times he was beat up for being in the “white” people’s neighborhood.
My father had many flaws, but I remember he was tall, expressive, and he affirmed my value and importance on a consistent basis. I loved my father and I know he loved me.
I am writing this article from a Christian perspective. I am not persuaded by the lack or decay of moral values to the point that I call good, evil and evil, good. I truly believe that the Bible is filled with prescriptions and maps that can lead us to healthy and wholesome lives in every area.
On that note, I would like to caution women to think about and plan their actions and choices regarding the men in their lives. Is the man who participated in the conception of your child your “baby’s daddy” or father? There is a distinct difference.
In my community I hear women referring to the man they cohabit with or the father of their child as “my baby’s daddy.” Some generations called him a “dead beat dad” and others a “sperm donor.” This reference is to a male who has a child, but is not married to the mother or absent in the home.
It may also refer to a male who has fathered a child but not taking the responsibilities and standing in the role as a father of integrity and provision. Having children according to the Bible is a reward and the children produced in that union are a heritage and gift from the Lord. How does our role as parents affect the lives of these gifts?
The Bible defines the role of a father. One of the first is found in I Corinthians 7:1-5. The scripture here instructs that every man should avoid immorality and have his own wife. So before having children, our first consideration should be marriage.
Marriage includes commitment and devotion, with each party fulfilling their God given roles as God has ordained. Therefore, being a responsible husband is great preparation for being a good father.
In Colossians 3: 19-21, fathers are instructed to not exasperate and provoke their children. The father’s actions can have long lasting effects in the life of a child.
If a father chooses to put his career, work, ambitions and others ahead of his child, it can cause resentments, anger, discouragement and bitterness. A father’s stability, presence, productivity and love are important in producing a stable child. When we as adults fail to fulfill our roles, the impact will carry on to many generations.
Who is the man in your child’s life? Is it your “baby’s daddy” or father? Are you enjoying the full benefits our Father God has provided for us? In these human bodies we will never be flawless, but we can study and do the Word of God to get a blueprint of his examples.
Father God is a great starting point to see how a real father, mother and child can develop.
If you have not received Jesus as your Lord and Savior, do so today. Read John 3:16 and Romans 10:9,10.