Kaylee’s Koncept: Kaylee Davis
The Problem with Success
I am a strong supporter of the independent, strong Black woman, someone with a career and mind of her own. Black women are attending college and receiving advanced degrees more than ever before, which is amazing and empowering. But with our success, challenges have surfaced.
I am also a strong support of the maternal Black woman, someone who works hard for her family. But with a record high of professional Black women comes a record low of Black women getting married and having families, a terrible catch 22. Should we sacrifice love and family for our careers; should we sacrifice our careers for love and family? Honestly, I do not want to sacrifice. I want to have it all- a career, a husband, and family. But, I am unsure how realistic this is.
The more advanced your degree, as a Black woman, the less and less like you are to get married. The more years you devote to your career, the less time you can devote to having a family. What is an ambitious Black woman to do- drop her career goals in want of a family?
I think not. I am hoping to finish my degree, pursue a successful and, hopefully, lucrative career, get married, and have children. “How?” you might ask. While I cannot be completely sure, I plan to practice the art of balance, balancing my career with my family. Instead of solely pursuing one or the other, I will pursue both.
I expect this will not be an easy compromise. Compromise is hardly ever easy, but it is often doable. I have witnessed multiple Black woman partake in this compromise successfully, so I know it can be done with patience. Despite the dismal numbers, I encourage other Black women, like myself, who want it all, to approach the situation with optimism. While pursuing your career is immensely important, also focus on pursuing family. Have confidence that a balance between the two can be achieved, and if it happens for you, revel in your accomplishment. Do not lose faith in your ability.
Black women who have the tenacity to receive diplomas and degrees also possess the tenacity to nurture and love a family. Give yourself the opportunity to do both; I know I will.
Kaylee Davis is a Sentinel Intern