The ‘All about Us’ Interview
Boris Frederic Cecil Tay-Natey Ofuatey-Kodjoe was born in Vienna, Austria on March 8, 1973 to Eric, a physician from Ghana, and Ursula, a psychologist from Germany which is where he was raised along with his siblings, Patrick and Nadja.
While attending Virginia Commonwealth University on a tennis scholarship, the striking, 6’3” student-athlete was spotted by a talent scout and signed to a contract with the Ford Modeling Agency. After appearing in ad campaigns for Ralph Lauren, Perry Ellis, Yves Saint Laurent and The Gap, Boris blossomed into a rarity, one of the world’s few male supermodels. So, it’s no surprise that he would one day be named one of the 50 Most Beautiful People in the World by People Magazine.
In 2000, he turned his attention to acting, making his big screen debut in Love & Basketball, following that up with well-received appearances in everything from Brown Sugar to The Gospel to Madea’s Family Reunion. On Broadway, he’s worked opposite James Earl Jones and Phylicia Rashad in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof.
On TV, he was cast in the hit series ‘Soul Food’ as Damon Carter, a role for which he would land a trio of NAACP Image Award nominations. While doing the hit show, he fell head over heels in love with his attractive co-star, Nicole Ari Parker, and by 2005 the inseparable pair would marry back in his hometown, Gundelfingen, Germany. They now have two kids, Sophie Tei-Naaki Lee Kodjoe, 3, and Nicolas Neruda Kodjoe, 1. Despite being quite the power couple, they’ve decided to make their home away from the hustle and bustle of Hollywood in relatively-sedate Atlanta.
Here, Boris talks about all of the above and his latest movie, All about Us, a romantic dramedy about a Hollywood couple who decide to settle down in Mississippi after shooting a movie there, rather than return to L.A.
Sentinel: Hi Boris. How are Nicole and the kids?
BK: They’re good. They’re on their way back from L.A. She was doing a pilot for ABC, called Never Better.
Sentinel: What interested you in doing All about Us?
BK: First and foremost was the script, because I rarely, to that point, got a chance to consider playing a role like that, a regular family guy who is basically trying to balance his career goals with his obligations to his family. It’s a very heartwarming story with some really interesting, fleshed-out characters. And when I had a meeting with the director, Christine Swanson, and her husband, Michael, I admired their passion for what they were doing. I think it’s always a blessing to get to work with people who have that fire about what they’re doing.
Sentinel: What was it like filming All about Us on location in Mississippi?
BK: It was great. I encountered tremendous heat and lovely people.
Sentinel: The script was semi-autobiographical. So, it must have been interesting to be acting out the filmmakers’ life story.
BK: Yeah, it was interesting. I talked with Michael about the character, and about his path and his journey. And it was fun to sort of associate certain things that he went through with things that I’ve been through in my life. For instance, I had a young daughter, too, so there were many parallels that I could draw on. It was funny, because we were different people, yet all young fathers obviously go through some of the same stuff, and have some of the same concerns and anxieties. So, the process was really cool to me.
Sentinel: And you and Nicole left L.A. yourselves, in your case for Atlanta.
BK: We never wanted to raise the kids in Hollywood. We wanted to be in an environment that spoke to us, culturally. That’s how we chose Atlanta and found our dream home. Also, I have family coming from Europe, and her family is in Baltimore, so the choice was very practical at the same time.
Sentinel: I know you are quad-lingual: German, English, French and Spanish. What languages are you going to teach your children?
BK: Well, they speak three, right now: obviously English, plus German and Spanish. Our nanny is Guatemalan, and she only speaks Spanish to them. And we speak German to them.
Sentinel: I heard that your mother’s Jewish. Is that true?
BK: Well, by blood, yeah. My grandmother’s part Jewish, which makes my mother and myself Jewish, by blood. But we weren’t raised in the Jewish faith. I remember my mother teaching me from the age of about 3 or 4 that we had to find our own way based on many different religions, that there were many different doctrines but that they all had the same purpose. I always remember that, because it was so simple, and so poignant and deep at the same time. I try to apply that now and expose my kids to many different ideas and philosophies, so they can find their own way.
Sentinel: Did you lose any relatives in the Holocaust?
BK: Yeah, on my mother’s side, my maternal great-grandmother. It was ironic in a way, because my grandmother wasn’t pure-blooded Aryan, and therefore she wasn’t considered a member of the master race. But she got pregnant by my grandfather who was 200% German. So, it was quite a tumultuous time for her, because they had to hide her for her to survive the Second World War.
Sentinel: Did you have to deal with racism as a child? You must have been one of very non-white kids in the neighborhood?
BK: Me and my brother were always the only black kids. Racism is universal, but it’s very different in different cultures. Where I grew up, racism was more about ignorance and a lack of knowledge than a controlled and focused prejudice. So, I was subjected to the type of racism where people called me names, but I had a lot of great friends, too. Overall, it was a great environment to grow up in. The place I was raised was in the Black Forest and looks like The Sound of Music. We had a great childhood, full of fun and outdoor adventure. It was very sane and well-rounded. My mother always told us we were perfect the way we were, and that we wouldn’t have to worry about what people said because there are just a lot of ignoramuses in the world, and that you will encounter them until the day you die. That was her approach, and now when I look back, I can really appreciate it.
Sentinel: Barack Obama also had a white mother and an African father. What do you think of him?
BK: That’s just one of the aspects of him that I find intriguing. I think that he’s an incredible and powerful man, very charismatic and intelligent. He also has great integrity and pride, and loves the country. I believe he’s someone who will not only improve America internally in terms of the economy, healthcare, education, the environment and Social Security but also repair the country’s reputation which has suffered around the world over the past eight years. He’s someone who I believe can sit down with potential allies on the international level and try to make the world a better place for everyone. So, I’m supporting him wholeheartedly. I hope that people will wake up and take the country back. It’s hard to believe that we have a president who could officially deny the fact that the world is being affected by global warming. It’s embarrassing.
Sentinel: What’s it like being named one of the 50 Most Beautiful People in the World? Has it changed your life?
BK: [Laughs] That’s hilarious. No, it hasn’t changed my life at all. It’s one of those things, like the tabloids, that you can’t really take seriously.
Obviously, I’m very flattered, but that’s as far as it goes. It’s a nice thing, but I can’t take any credit for it. I don’t wake up and go, “Woo-hoo! I’m one of the 50 Most Beautiful! Yeah!” There are a lot of things that are much more important, like being a husband and father. I’ve been blessed with a great wife and amazing children who have changed my life. It’s not necessarily a walk in the park every day, but it’s absolutely the most rewarding gift ever.
Sentinel: How was it playing Brick on Broadway in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof?
BK: It was a dream come true, getting to play one of the significant roles in one of the most significant classics. I was honored and humbled by the experience. Everybody was so supportive, James Earl Jones, Phylicia Rashad, Debbie Allen, Anika Noni Rose and Giancarlo Esposito. And the crowd response was great, everything was amazing.
Sentinel: Is there any question nobody asks you that you wish somebody would ask?
BK: What nobody ever asks me is how difficult it was to come to sound like this, probably because they all assume I’m African-American.
Sentinel: True, your American accent has no traces of German. So, how difficult was it to sound like this? Did you study English in Germany?
BK: I learned it here. I took classes, had a dialect coach, and watched a lot of MTV. When I prepare for a part, I still have to figure out the appropriate accent and cadence.
Sentinel: How do you want to be remembered?
BK: I want to be remembered as a great father, and as someone who inspired people to have integrity and drive.