Participate in any discussion on relationships and you are likely to see a few things consistently.
First, you'll see more women than men participating.
Second, you'll see people passing stereotypes around, instead of seeking the truth with researched data.
And third, you'll see one side blaming the other, while pretending to be listening in search of enlightenment.
Sad, I know.
But really, men and women are having difficulty talking to each other.
And, while no one wants to take the weight, both sides are to blame.
Men have to take their fair share of the breakdown blame because too many of us believe that it's cool to tuck our emotions away. Too many men have also decided that it is better to appease women than to speak the truth and have them angry at us. And too many of us think that having a discussion about feelings is for women and gay men.
Consequently, our voice is rarely heard, except in response to the voices of "those" women who are loud and negative, particularly in the media.
In fact, the media is filled with article after article about what is wrong with Black men. Even when discussing the difficulties facing Black women, the finger is inevitably pointed at Black men. That's why it's confusing to see crazy people who get upset with me when I offer balance.
To the ignorant, balance means that I cannot say anything about women without someone simultaneously saying something about men.
Not only is that ignorant but it is in direct contradiction with the plethora of negative media coverage on men--Where the good ones are; why we are in prison, why we are "down low", blah, blah, blah.....
At any rate, no one can deny that there is a war brewing between the genders and that unless more strong men stand up and make themselves heard, things will only get worse.
I asserted before and do so now, that Radical Feminism has caused some role-reversals and general confusion as to what each gender should really be about.
As a glaring example, where men were once fighters, we see far too many women cursing like sailors and ready to get physical with men and with each other (some of them are shocked when people fight back).
Some women consider themselves "evolved" to use filthy language like men and to engage as many lovers as possible (even though that ain't good for men, either).
On the flip side, where women were once tender and more conciliatory, we see far too many men who refuse to stand up for themselves, speaking too softly, afraid to make people angry and allowing women to define them.
Of course, I will inspire anger when I point out that over the past thirty years, we--both men and women--have been assaulted by damaging and contradictory messages from Radical Feminists.
And, because Radical Feminists haven't held a convention and passed out their propaganda in handbooks, some morons try to deny that it exists.
Radical Feminists have attempted to re-define womanhood, failing because not even all women agree. For example, for every combat boot-wearing freak of female nature who curses a man for chivalry, there is still a woman who prefers to have the door held for her.
And the re-defining of men failed for the same reasons.
In reality, there are so many covert gender-benders (which has nothing to do with sexuality) speaking loudly while claiming to represent their gender that younger people are getting a little confused.
For example ignominious morons are quick to call a man gay because they disagree with him.
The morons who disagree with disrespect always go straight to the same place that white racists always went-attempt at castration.
White racists loved calling Black men "boy" in order to cast doubt on his manhood. Witness the Feminatzis and their sissified boy minions calling men gay when they disagree or dislike what they hear from the men.
Aside from the aspersions against a man's sexuality, there are the accusations of hating Black women when a man speaks against the propaganda.
Well nutty Feminatzis and their sissified boy minions will now have another reason to hate me, even though I still haven't found one reason to give a damn.
I don't care because I've studied history.
The revolutionary movements of Blacks during the 1950's and 1960's were about freedom from Jim Crow laws and discrimination against people of color. It expanded beyond Black to include other oppressed minorities, which is why we see Mexican immigrants singing "We Shall Overcome" while employing tactics from the Sixties in seeking their goals.
The results of the revolutionary movements in the Sixties benefited both men and women, even though Radical Feminists claim that the movements were sexist.
And, since we now see that more women are in college than men, which is leading to some groups of women progressing over groups of men, we know that the results were beneficial to both genders.
So, why, then, do we still hear about the poor, oppressed Black woman, who is downtrodden by the very Black man she also claims to have passed in progress?
The reason is simple, yet infuriating for the ignorant.
Journalist, Activist, Author Midge Decter asserts that the Radical Feminist is disoriented by freedom of choice.
"It is a freedom that frightens her [today's woman] and disorients her and burdens her terribly," asserts Decter. "The appeal to her of the women's movement is that in her fear and disorientation, the movement offers her the momentary escape contained in the idea that she is not free at all; that she is, on the contrary, the victim of an age-old conspiracy that everything troubling to her has been imposed on her by others."
In other words, feminism, much like many other revolutions, failed its followers, because there was and is no plan for dealing with success.
Arguably, one could say that the Black revolution failed because once the goals that were set were reached, there was no plan for continued direction. This may explain why Blacks improved for a time and then in many ways began to backslide.
It may also explain why many Black women chose to attach themselves to a movement (feminism) that still had momentum, even as the direction was becoming murky.
But the conundrums can be found in statements that detail how far ahead Black women are than Black men, juxtaposed to the statements of how Black men are oppressing Black women.
Essentially, such silly statements dictate that Black men have focused on holding their women down, instead of progressing. It also dictates that Black women have become more powerful than Black men but are ostensibly either too stupid or too weak to keep from being held down by these weak and stupid people.
When we hear the statements of job parity or equal access in society, Black men recognize and respect the struggle of Blacks who are women, because we still face some of those same issues as Blacks who are men.
So then what is it that the Black Radical Feminist wants?
Apparently, not even she knows, particularly, since many of those who carry the banner and pass along the propaganda often shy away from even identifying with feminism.
But African descendants in America are familiar with such hesitation, as throngs of Blacks have either passed as white through history, or simply have refused to be identified with Blacks.
The Radical Feminist slogan should go something like this: "What do we want? We don't know. When do we want it? Now!"
Next Week: "The Burden of Freedom."
Darryl James is an award-winning author of the powerful new anthology "Notes From The Edge." James' stage play, "Love In A Day," opens in Los Angeles this Spring. View previous installments of this column at www.bridgecolumn.proboards36.com. Reach James at